Taking care of elderly parents presents so many problems to be solved. My grandfather got a serious infection around Christmas, which led to his partner basically calling it quits bc he's been using her as a live-in nurse for many years now. He's kind of an asshole.
As is often the case though, asshole parents are still loved, and now like 5 of his children (out of 9 lol) are scrambling to get him moved across the country, arrange for getting a pacemaker, etc... it's such a goddamn mess.
My mom sent out an email this morning to many family members describing the situation in detail and their plan. It ends on a foreboding note:
"I have put this out in a matter of fact manner knowing that this house of cards can fall at any time."
I am moderately worried about his health - honestly his relationship falling apart is the more serious issue as he no longer has a place to live.
But I am seriously worried about this creating a rift in the family. Some of my Mom's siblings (like herself) are going above and beyond to take care of him. And 2-3 are basically like "lmao fuck him".
He was a pretty terrible parent in many ways. That's just being fair. But whose to say that he should die alone, without dignity? Is this how we take care of family?
Nobody is asking for my opinion on the matter, of course. 😆 (not that they should)
@Elmkast If it helps, as far as I can tell it is _always_ a shitshow.
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