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Love gives room for another to give it their all and loves them even in failure.

Having too much money means that there are very few situations where it’s possible to give it your all and denies yourself the vulnerability necessary for love.

Not allowing enough space is similar in that the other needs to fully put themselves and ONLY themselves on the line. Otherwise there’s always an excuse.

You have to be able to fail with no excuses.

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"Anyhow, that’s the setup. We’ll dive in next time."

was cliffhanger at the end of the 2015 piece "The Boydian Dialectic" :refactored:

boost to peer-pressure (acylote-pressure?) Venkat into finally publishing the follow up ☯

I came across them through Core Energetics, a descendants of Reichian Body-Psychotherapy, in case somebody is interested ask me more. (Eva Pierrakos was the medium for the Pathwork lectures, her husband John Pierrakos a disciple of Reich and founder of Core Energetics, they incorporated each other but somehow the two systems didn't completely merge).

A corpus of lectures that contain a comprehensive synthesis of depth-psychology and spirituality. They are availiable for free online (
I have gained a lot from reading them contemplatively.
Kind of the antithesis to the current "just meditate your way out of the pain" mentality of pop-mindfulness. It pays to suspend judgment of the New Age vibe and read a few of them. Maybe just pick a title that speaks to you instead of going chronologically.

Re: Mediocratopy
"One of the great milestones on the road to maturity is the ability to give up being special or grandiose and to accept yourself as being average, living an average life. If you can derive happiness out of the ordinary and out of being ordinary, then you have truly come a long way. If you do accept yourself and life in that way, you will no longer have to whip yourself into perfection." - The Pathwork Lectures.

Looks great on first glance. I will try to fill it our for myself the coming week and will get back to you!

i have been having my eyes on VSM, but didnt delve very deep. would be happy to check out anything you produce and provide feedback!

Sounds like meritocratic-libertarian abundance: "Everybody can make it, its all there for the taking."
I was thinking about win-win abundance: "The more you give, the more there is for everybody."

We can use the principles and patterns underlying stable, healthy, and sustainable
living systems as a model for economic-system design.

The descriptions of the ideologies with their threats and gifts made sense to me.
Then I started to think about the axes (I had studied a while ago).
I do not understand why progressivism ended up where it did. I went back to look at the slide deck and now i understand it even less, as it is clear there that it is the "shitty quadrant".
For example I would think that one underlying principle behind Sharing is Abundance, the opposite of Scarcity.

I will also be there :) ill try to find you!

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Does anybody here have any resources on billing models for custom software development agencies?

"Because our enemy is not piracy, our enemy is not someone that is going to steal our idea. Our enemy is Obscurity. That we are not known and not trusted. But if we are trusted for the right reasons, you have more leverage than ever before." - Seth Godin

"How can I get more confidence? [...] I think its the wrong question. Because as soon as you ask that question, you are viewing the world as a threat. You are viewing yourself as inadequate.
[...] The right question is: How can I be more generous?
[Then] we get out of our own head, and we have the chance to live in a connection economy, that's based on abundance. Abundance of information, abundance of trust.
As opposed to an industrial economy that's based on scarcity. " - Seth Godin

Debugging insight of the day:

Focus on solving the problem, not the mystery.

There is a trade-off between deep understanding and fast problem solving.

When deadline looms, don't nerd-snipe yourself and keep a flexible mind, focused on the problem.

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