Ughh. I've noticed I keep falling into the same negative thought spiral whenever my partner gets upset, and I'm still figuring how to snap myself out of it when it happens.
I guess it's a first for me because I don't usually let criticism get to me but somehow it's different coming from my partner.
The interesting discovery for me is that similar to infinite space-time loops from popular media, you kind of do find yourself repeating a thought loop if you try to think your way out of it through familiar patterns.
And similar to space-time loops, just stopping yourself from walking/thinking forward is insufficient. You practically have to alter your brain chemistry or jar it into a new mode of thinking.
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