@Elmkast I do that by playing a little game in my head. I try to see how much I can find out without asking for their name, occupation, age, birthday, marital status, etc. Kind of like playing Taboo.
It's not against the rules for them to reveal it naturally in the course of conversation, so if I ask him how their weekend was and he says he spent it with his wife, I won't ask back if he has kids. I'll have to ask something else that leads to the answer being revealed, whenever it happens.
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