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Hot take: pretentiousness has an up-or-out trajectory. In young adulthood you either learn to stop taking yourself so seriously or become committed to being an unbearable ass.

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Context: reuniting with an old friend and DJ partner who could hardly be bothered to have a real conversation but wanted me to know that he's now on vinyl only and his girlfriend takes his party pix on film only. Jesus christ homie...

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@riga Cold take: pretentiousness is an auto-immune disorder, caused by overactive defenses against low prestige memes.

@machado @riga Lukewarm take: you need a healthy amount of pretentiousness to survive in most adult social groups.

@Elmkast @riga That would be a properly calibrated immune system in the analogy.

@riga Over time, people tend to specialize in playing a certain status metagame, and sometimes that makes them sound like assholes to people playing other games (a feature, not a bug. That's your status instinct trying not to waste time/energy).

Sharing those opinions with you is like giving you his coordinates in a social space you may not have a map for, or even give a fuck about.

@machado Yeah, I guess it just stings a lil bit when it's a "friend" who's evaluating you in the context of their chosen game.

@riga I feel you. Extra painful if they used to be a close friend.

But sometimes we have to amputate a necrotic friendship to keep the rest of our social lives from going septic.

@riga Ah yes, the Grand Unified Wolfram Theory

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